Inevitable Love; elusive Death...

Doesnt make sense? No? A paradox perhaps?

Love and death, love and lost...they're all similar in one way or another. They could both tear and wear and rape the strongest of hearts. Cruel, cold and agonisingly long. So why cant it they be interchagable? They both make you feel crushed inside, both take a long time to get over, and they somehow make you reflect on yourself. When one falls out of love, death appears more of a reality; When one dies, love naturally fades. They seem to dominate our emotions, make you feel smaller on the inside and sadder on the outside...I must say that of all the feelings, these two have to be king, afterall they are the backbone of most of our problems.

Sure, love can be a bliss, but for how long? No one can tell. Forever? Bullshit...thats not true love, that becomes security. You wont leave because you might not find another half just as good or better, or worse, you leave becuse you did! You're afraid to confront you're friends or family. You dont want to feel the agony of a breakup/divorce. You're afaid of what people might talk of you, of what they might say, and of what they might think. You dont want to face the questions of "Why Why and Why?" Secretly, you're not confident of yourself, can you live alone without him/her? Who's gonna support me/the children? Will I lose half my property if I were to divorce? Get real...most of us are hypocrites, we're lying to ourselves. Is love really that "pure"? Think about it carefully...you know the answer. I'll tell you what love is, love is cruel...it draws you into that pool of all those "impurities", in exchange for a sense of pride, "...I have a boyfriend, I'd do anything for him; my girlfriend is the sweetest little thing I know etc..." (is that so?), in exhange for occasional butterflies in your stomach, in exhcange for being treated with a special kinda attention, in exhange of a pretty-looking face....Bah!!

Like love, life is temporary. Death comes whether you like it or not. It probably is another form of so called "love". It affects your emotions negatively, it just gets you. Death of a family member or someone dear to you is a very sad thing to happen. But of course some deaths, to a certain extent, like love, is not truly genuine. Do you honestly think the people running orphanages or old folk's homes gives a damn if one of their inputs have died? Well, maybe some..but I can gurantee that if they were within their power to do/get anything they wanted to in life, they certainly wouldnt settle for that job. We've heard of they saying, "Where there's a will, there are relatives." People moan and people cry at a funeral..if not, what would others think? You're here for the food? Or just to show your face? We're all selfish and are moved/pressured into doing things. Guys flirt because they want attention, or girls to think them funny. They play on pity for attention, which ironically, makes them pitiful.

Go ahead and feel offended, I dont really care.. death sucks, love too. If you are, it simply means that you've never really seen the full side of this world cuz you've been just too comfortable with your life. It is full of hippocracy, and predators. I do believe you're aware of everything, but ur just lying to protect yourself. Dont.

Death sucks. Love too. Obviously, I'm mildly affected by these two plastic scenarios, which is probably why I'm over reacting....Sherry died this morning. She wasnt shown as much love as I'd like to admit, none the less, she did make a difference in my life. I pray she finds her way and hope our paths will cross again. May she rest in peace and with all my love...

7 Secrets of Success...

kaput...

I realised how important the internet can be, but only if you really need to use it. Going without an internet connection for more than a month, especially having to plan a freakin' holiday or booking a train ticket, plus nauseating exams, can be considerably frustrating...

Oh well, dont take things for granted!!

Jeers!

Founder's Day...

Baden-Powell's Last Message

Towards the end of his life, although still in comparatively good health, he prepared a farewell message to his Scouts for publication after his death. It read:

"Dear Scouts - if you have ever seen the play 'Peter Pan' you will remember how the pirate chief was always making his dying speech because he was afraid that possible, when the time came for him to die, he might not have time to get it off his chest. It is much the same with me, and so, although I am not at this moment dying, I shall be doing so one of these days and I want to send you a parting word of goodbye.

Remember, it is the last time you will ever hear from me, so think it over. I have had a most happy life and I want each one of you to have a happy life too.

I believe that God put us in this jolly world to be happy and enjoy life. Happiness does not come from being rich, nor merely being successful in your career, nor by self-indulgence. One step towards happiness is to make yourself healthy and strong while you are a boy, so that you can be useful and so you can enjoy life when you are a man.

Nature study will show you how full of beautiful and wonderful things God has made the world for you to enjoy. Be contented with what you have got and make the best of it. Look on the bright side of things instead of the gloomy one.

But the real way to get happiness is by giving out happiness to other people. Try and leave this world a little better than you found it and when your turn comes to die, you can die happy in feeling that at any rate you have not wasted your time but have done your best. 'Be Prepared' i this way, to live happy and to die happy - stick to your Scout Promise always - even after you have ceased to be a boy - and God help you to do it.

Your friend,

V for Valentine's

Every year on Valentine's day, there's always going to be someone that doesn't have anyone to tell them that they love them. Every year on Valentine's day, someone will be sitting at home alone with no one to care.
Then there are those people who have someone on Valentine's day, someone to hold, someone to love. Sometimes the ones who are lonely see the ones who are not and wish they had that. So I'd like to share these string of words on this Valentine's Day...


The day of love draws near,
Time for love and flowers,
Fancy candlelit dinners,
Staring at each other for hours.

The day of the lovers,
On a Wednesday this year,
More suicides occur,
As this dreadful day draws near.

Oh Valentines day,
Cruel Valentines day.
Why do you taunt me,
With your melting candy hearts,
And your paper "I love you"s?
With your sugar coated lies,
That taste as sweet as hate.

Watching lovers cuddles,
Just deepens the pain.
"I'm a nobody, I have nothing to gain"

Some miss their ex,
Some have lost all hope,
"I'm not beautiful"
Then they overdose on dope

So many couples,
Everywhere you go.
And here you stand alone,
Nothing but sadness,
Comes from your eyes
On Valentine's Day.

It's supposed to be a happy day,
For most people it probably is
But not your kind of day.

So when with your other tomorrow,
Forgive those who whine,
Remember not everyone
Has their own Valentine.

You have no one
Standing next to you,
You're all alone in the world.
Then you see
All the happy couples,
In love and holding hands.

It makes you sick to see them,
Thinking you aren't worth the time.
You just want the day to end
That's the way life goes.
Nothing good for you
This Valentine's Day...

We'll be waiting in the shadows,
We'll be waiting for a sign,
We'll be praying to our Gods each night
To bring back our Valentine!

The Law of Seed...

Take a look at an apple tree.
There might be five hundred apples on the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds.
That's a lot of seeds!

We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?"
Nature has something to teach us here.
It's telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow.

So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once."

This might mean:

You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.
You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.
You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea.
And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend.

When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed.

We stop feeling like victims.

We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.

Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.

Basically,
Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.
When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:

You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry...
That's what miserable people do.

On the other hand, let's say you expect that:
Friends SHOULD return favours.
People SHOULD appreciate you.
Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
Everyone SHOULD be honest.
Your best friends SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't happen ;) So you end up frustrated and disappointed.

There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences. For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
"I would prefer 'A', but if 'B' happens, it's OK too!"

This is a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind...

You prefer that people are polite... but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.
You prefer sunshine...but if it rains, it is ok too.

To become happier, we either need to
a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.

It is easier to change our thinking.

It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem, tha is the problem.It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness. It's how you think about what happens to you...

Human relation...

This was narrated by an India Air Force pilot to IIT students on special seminar for HUMAN RELATION...

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.

When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life. As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders.

Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes.

Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents.